Accepting help from other people can be hard. Like, really hard. It often involves sacrificing some pride and independence and often makes you feel incompetent and indebted to the person who helped you. For people like me, who like to be self sufficient, this can be extremely difficult. But never fear! Recent research published in the Journal of Social Psychology has found something that makes it easier to accept help.
‘Give a man a mask and he will show you his true face’- Oscar Wilde
I recently read this quote by Oscar Wilde and was reminded of how scarily right he could be.
A mask, be that literal or metaporical, can make someone anonymous. This loss of self awareness is called deindividuation. When people deindividuate, they are less likely to follow normal restraints and inhibitions and more likely to lose their sense of individual identity. It’s the kind of thing that leads to ‘mob mentality’. It can be seen in real life in groups like the Nazis, the Ku Klux Klan and groups of rioters. Numerous experiments have shown that when people are deindividuated they perform acts that they otherwise might not.
When you’re trying to learn, do something with your new knowledge, such as summarising it or explaining it to someone else. This deepens your memories and helps integrate what you’ve learned with what you already knew. A new study has tested the benefits of another beneficial learning activity – drawing.
Christmas may be drawing near, but my school have decided that the holidays should not be a time of rest. Oh no. Instead they are a time to manically study the masses of information accumulated since September for Mock Examinations.
Cue heart sinking.
In an effort to make revision a little bit more bearable, I turned to Psychology to find out how I could make the work I do more effective.
I know the thought of an en-suite is tempting, but a recent study by Matthew Easterbrook and Vivian Vignoles has found that university students who shared a toilet formed stronger bonds.
Stress is one of the worst feelings ever. I generally cope quite well with stress. I’ve never been the type of person to let work get on top of me but in the past few months I have been more stressed than i’ve ever been before. Forget A-levels, organising a week packed with fundraising events and co-ordinating a stupid number of committees to make sure said events go off without a hitch, on top of school work and a job, has been a challenge like no other.
For the past few weeks i’ve been unable to sleep at night, i’ve felt tight chested, had killer headaches, panic attacks, fainting and i’ve lost my appetite. Stress can have a serious impact on your quality of life, especially if it’s over a long period of time. I’m going back to my AS Psychology now to explain why stress can have this huge impact on us.
It’s that time of year again. Marked by an onslaught of TV adverts showing grinning children in their bright new uniforms and a sense of impending doom, as September begins it is inescapably Back-to-School time. It’s around this time of year that I find myself longing to be 5 years old again, a time when the hardest decisions I had to make were not what I wanted to do with my life but whether to play with the Lego or the Dolls House.
This book is incredible.
I’ve always been fascinated by autism but textbooks, with their clinical perspective, cross referencing and abbreviations have never been able to help me understand what it would actually be like to be autistic.
Written by Naoki Higashida, a 13 year old boy with autism from Japan, ‘The Reason I Jump’ provides a personal insight into the confusing world of a child with autism. Where other books have a doctrinaire spiel and are full of academic jargon, this closes the gap between the theory and, in the words of David Mitchell who introduces the book, ‘what’s unraveling on your kitchen floor.’
Higashida suffers from autism severe enough that verbal communication is impossible, but he has learnt to write by pointing at an alphabet grid, and through this has given insight into what’s happening in his head.
This book is a revelation for anyone who has or works with an autistic child. In demonstrating his intellectual acuity and understanding of his condition, Naoki Higashida discredits ideas that children with autism lack empathy and mental capacity. His entertaining and charming narrative, dispels popular myths and allows the reader to feel a little bit of what he feels on a daily basis, a truly beautiful and moving book.
WHY DO YOU FLAP YOUR FINGERS AND HANDS IN FRONT OF YOUR FACE?
Flapping our fingers and hands in front of our faces allows the light to enter our eyes in a pleasant, filtered fashion. Light that reaches us like this feels soft and gentle, like moonlight. But ‘unfiltered’ direct light sort of needles its way into the eyeballs of people with autism in sharp, straight lines, so we see too many points of light. This actually makes our eyes hurt.
Light wipes away our tears, and when we’re bathed in light, we’re happy.
Tonight on Channel 4 i’ve been watching Child Genius. I watched this last year and was quite amazed by these 8 year olds who could perform complex mental maths problems that had me stumped, but this year i’ve seen the competition in a wholly different light, and frankly it’s not great.
“The only normal people are the ones you don’t know very well.”
What even is normal?
Please, I’d love to know, because I can almost guarantee your idea is slightly different for that of every other person on earth.
So surely that means normal doesn’t exist?