Accepting help from other people can be hard. Like, really hard. It often involves sacrificing some pride and independence and often makes you feel incompetent and indebted to the person who helped you. For people like me, who like to be self sufficient, this can be extremely difficult. But never fear! Recent research published in the Journal of Social Psychology has found something that makes it easier to accept help.
‘Give a man a mask and he will show you his true face’- Oscar Wilde
I recently read this quote by Oscar Wilde and was reminded of how scarily right he could be.
A mask, be that literal or metaporical, can make someone anonymous. This loss of self awareness is called deindividuation. When people deindividuate, they are less likely to follow normal restraints and inhibitions and more likely to lose their sense of individual identity. It’s the kind of thing that leads to ‘mob mentality’. It can be seen in real life in groups like the Nazis, the Ku Klux Klan and groups of rioters. Numerous experiments have shown that when people are deindividuated they perform acts that they otherwise might not.
When you’re trying to learn, do something with your new knowledge, such as summarising it or explaining it to someone else. This deepens your memories and helps integrate what you’ve learned with what you already knew. A new study has tested the benefits of another beneficial learning activity – drawing.
Christmas may be drawing near, but my school have decided that the holidays should not be a time of rest. Oh no. Instead they are a time to manically study the masses of information accumulated since September for Mock Examinations.
Cue heart sinking.
In an effort to make revision a little bit more bearable, I turned to Psychology to find out how I could make the work I do more effective.
I know the thought of an en-suite is tempting, but a recent study by Matthew Easterbrook and Vivian Vignoles has found that university students who shared a toilet formed stronger bonds.
Stress is one of the worst feelings ever. I generally cope quite well with stress. I’ve never been the type of person to let work get on top of me but in the past few months I have been more stressed than i’ve ever been before. Forget A-levels, organising a week packed with fundraising events and co-ordinating a stupid number of committees to make sure said events go off without a hitch, on top of school work and a job, has been a challenge like no other.
For the past few weeks i’ve been unable to sleep at night, i’ve felt tight chested, had killer headaches, panic attacks, fainting and i’ve lost my appetite. Stress can have a serious impact on your quality of life, especially if it’s over a long period of time. I’m going back to my AS Psychology now to explain why stress can have this huge impact on us.
“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”
Sigmund Freud- Civilization and Its Discontents
It’s that time of year again. Marked by an onslaught of TV adverts showing grinning children in their bright new uniforms and a sense of impending doom, as September begins it is inescapably Back-to-School time. It’s around this time of year that I find myself longing to be 5 years old again, a time when the hardest decisions I had to make were not what I wanted to do with my life but whether to play with the Lego or the Dolls House.
“If a man has lost a leg or an eye, he knows he has lost a leg or an eye; but if he has lost a self—himself—he cannot know it, because he is no longer there to know it.”
Oliver Sacks- The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat
“Language, that most human invention, can enable what, in principle, should not be possible. It can allow all of us, even the congenitally blind, to see with another person’s eyes.”